Other people's opinions
Some friends and family may raise an eyebrow at first. Most come round once they see you're happy.
- Decide together how and when you'll introduce each other.
- Don't over-explain. You don't need anyone's permission to be happy.
- Give people time. First reactions often soften once they've met the person.
Different stages of life
An age gap often means you're at different points in work, money and family.
That isn't a problem in itself. It helps to talk openly about what each of you has going on, what you can give to the relationship, and where you might need a little understanding from the other.
Knowing what you each want
The big questions matter more than the years between you.
- Are you looking for something fun, something serious, or still deciding?
- How do you each feel about children, now or in the future?
- Where do you see yourself living in a few years?
You don't need answers on day one, but raising these once you're getting serious avoids surprises later.
Enjoy what you bring each other
Couples with an age gap often say the difference is part of what makes it fun: new ideas, new music, new ways of seeing things. Focus on that, and the number usually stops mattering.